- As a woman, as one who hopes someday to be a wife and mother, I realize the reality of male headship.
- As a young woman, I realize that, if I really want to impact the world, I need to apply myself by impacting the cornerstone of any society: the family (Genesis 2:18-25; family is the first institution set up after creation).
- As a woman who hopes someday to be a wife and mother, I realize that my position is not "at the gates," but making my husband (not my employer) known there (Proverbs 31:23)
- As a young woman, I embrace my role in my home -first as daughter, later as wife -and cherish the protection and guidance that my father -and later, my husband -has been called to afford me.
- As a woman who hopes someday to be a wife and mother, I realize the importance of children, arrows to be shot straight into the next generation, and desire to spend my time crafting and perfecting them, not handing off that responsibility to anyone else (Psalms 127:4-5; Deuteronomy 6)
- As a patriotic American, I proudly recognize the place that women held in the founding of our country; as supportive, loving wives, not merely beautifying ornaments, but women like Abigail Adams, who used her encouraging, open, loving, and intelligent conversation with her husband to help spur him to make some of the most important decisions in our nation's history.
- As a Christian, standing in the shambles of a post-modern culture, I embrace my calling as a soldier, but will only fight this battle as our General (the Lord) has set forth in the Battle Plans (the Word); I will not yield to the tyranny of the urgent -I will not compromise my beliefs because "someone needs to get this country back on track, even if it has to be a woman."
- As a woman who hopes someday to be a wife and mother, I would never want to usurp my husband's God-given authority in the home (Ephesians 5:22-33), which means I would never want to be in a national position that puts me in authority over him and other heads of household.
- As a woman who hopes someday to be a wife and mother, I want to give my household 100%; not 80% for the nation, 20% for my household; not 50% for the nation, 50% for my household; not 90% for my household and 10% for the nation; I want to give everything I can to the home I have been called by God Almighty to guard (Titus 2:3-5), to the family He may make me the mother of.
- As a young woman who has been called, first and foremost, to glorify my Lord and Savior, I do not balk at the sphere where He has placed me; I relish in it, because I know He will use me in this sphere to bring glory and honor to Him.
*It has come to my attention that the title of this post may have offended brothers and sisters in Christ. I am very sorry if it appears haughty or prideful to suggest that I could someday be VP. :) The title was meant to be tongue in cheek, as, at the tender age of eighteen with no political experience whatsoever... no, the position hasn't , and probably never will be offered to me. :)


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I love what you had to say! It is so encouraging to me and other people! One of my favorites was #7 because that seems to be a very prominant excuse, for women specifically, and you explained it so clearly.
Love you,
Micaela
If I might say in the most feminine manner,
"Huzzah! Huzzah! Huzzah!"
Thank you Jasmine. You have articulated, for many of us, thoughts that we hold dear.
God Bless,
Kelly
Jasmine,
As a home schooling mother of four, two of which are girls ages 7 and 11, I want to thank you for your comments concerning Sarah Palin as McCain's VP pick. My mind has been reeling the past few days on how to respond to this. On the one hand thinking, "Thank God! A conservative!" But then, "Wait a minute. Is she really a conservative when she is giving up her family for her career?" The comments by you and your father have been wonderfully articulate! I plan on printing this out and reading and discussing this with my daughters. I am thankful for young women like you that I can point my daughters to as real role models.
Heather
Jasmine, I agree with you one hundred percent! (And the thoughts I have shared in my e-mail have changed yet today!) Grr....
You know, I never know what the Lord has for me when it comes to marriage. The Lord might have something political in store for me...as one who will help her husband fulfill his dream. I can think of nothing better than supporting my husband (if he wanted a political future) and yet following it at the same time =)
Great reasons - they are mine as well! People have sometimes said, "I'll be able to say I knew you as a teen before you got famous!" and I smile at their teasing, but inside, I know that I don't want to be famous. I just want to have a husband to love and support and a family to love and raise in God's truth. A much better job than a vice president, in my opinion! :-)
I just discovered your blog. What an impressive young lady you are! I look forward to reading more.
Do put your husband between God and Jesus. He is a man. Do not worship your man. Worship the Lord. You ladies are confused.
Georgia
I've never wanted to be Vice President either. I'm reminded of when the Botkin sisters wrote in their book "So Much More" that a woman in a leadership position is a sign that the LORD is very displeased with that nation.
I wonder...can it be that the LORD is so displeased with the men not overthrowing curses such as abortion that HE has allowed a woman in a position of power to humble us?
This whole election appears to be very humbling and gut-wrenching. We can't have a Marxist leader like Obama, but now everyone is so caught up on this fear of having a woman leader...I find the situation very scary. I don't want a dangerous outcome!
How should we then live in either circumstance? Could we survive with our liberties intact if the democrat gets elected? Even if you vote for a third party candidate, you still know the outcome will be either McCain or Obama.
Which man would you rather have in office? I'm just really curious as to what everyone thinks because I hear people condemn both sides but if you're going to have one or the other...hmm...or do you just not care? Sometimes I think it would be so much easier for me if I just didn't care.
~Amanda~
I too believe that a wife and mother should be just that. But what of the young woman who never marries? We are to submit to the headship of our husband not every man. I have no problem with a woman in a place of political power if she has no home commitments. Thanks for letting me share my thoughts on it. Leticia
Miss Georgia,
I don't have a husband yet :), but I can see your point. I would never want to place my husband (my parents, my siblings, my brothers and sisters in Christ, anyone) above the Lord, but I do take His commands for wives *very* seriously, and hope that I am able to carry them out faithfully if and when I do become a wife.
~Jasmine~
Amanda,
I don't have a preference, to tell you the truth. I have no hope of *either* man upholding the values upon which this country is built, and the lesser of two evils is just that --evil.
I am called as a Christian to glorify my Lord and Savior in every choice that I make, even in an election as bleak as this. That being the case, I cannot in good conscience vote for Barack Obama *or* Senator McCain (and not because of Governor Palin, actually ~I have several other reasons for that decision that I do not wish to get into in a comment section! :)
I am not responsible for the outcome; I am responsible for doing what I believe is right, just as you are, just as anyone else reading these words is. I do not condemn anyone for voting for McCain/Palin, if that's what their conscience will allow ~
Mine will not.
Do I care about the outcome of this election? Absolutely, I do. But I will not sacrifice principle to vote for the lesser of two evils.
Governor Palin is, I'm sure, a very capable leader, regardless of the fact that, as a woman, she is not biblically qualified to lead; but even if she were a man, I still wouldn't vote for Senator McCain.
Thank you very much for your comment! You are obviously a very intelligent, astute young woman, and your presence here is appreciated!
~Jasmine~
Amen! Wise words Jasmine. I love the wisdom you share!!
Love,
Allison
Amen! You expressed this so beautifully!
Jasmine,
Very wise words for one so young. I praise God for the wisdom He has given you.
Mrs. Taunya
What if Sarah's husband wanted to stay at home and take care of the household and children? What if that was what he wanted, and this was what she wanted- do you think God would mind?
Chris,
God has told Governor Palin *and* her husband where Sarah's place is: as a keeper of her home (Titus 2:3-5; Proverbs 31:10-31).
Whether or not Mr. Palin wants to stay home and take care of the children, it is his job to provide, shepherd, and disciple his family (Ephesians 5:22f).
~Jasmine~
Amen, Sister!
Dear Jasmine,
What you wrote was very encouraging and thought provoking to myself. I am also a stay at home daughter who truly believes that women should not be out in the world in leadership positions.
Thank you for writing this and God bless you as you follow Him and His infallible Word.
A sister in Christ,
Megan
I really love this post. So true to what you said, If I said this to someone in my family, they would laugh at me and it has happen before. I love your blog (can I add you to my blog list?)
asia
I found your blog through "Ah, the Life".
I understand your philosophy and theology and agree -- in part. In regards to #9: I agree that God has called us women to a very high calling as wives, mothers, and homemakers. However, to not support Gov. Palin because of your personal convictions to your home, you must also not support ANY career that takes a woman from her home any percentage of her time -- waitresses, nurses, nurse practioners, doulas, midwives, teachers, maids, hairdressers, and sales clerks. The logic must be followed through.
I don't want my daughter becoming VP, either. I also don't want my husband or son to be President. No one in such a high office is going to be able to give much to his family. I want my husband home for dinner. I want my children to know that they are a priority in their father's life. I want my husband home to protect me, not a bunch of Secret Service men.
With every choice we make, we make a decision against something. I don't presume to judge someone else's home. I just do my best to guard mine.
Jasmine, well said!
I'm a fellow stay-at-home daughter and I linked to this on my blog "Stay-at-Home Daughters," I hope that's alright?
I just love it when I find other young women who can articulate my convictions better than I can. :)
I even love your above comment, about not voting for the "lesser" evil. I feel the same way, and it's so hard to find others who share that conviction.
God bless you!
Hi Jasmine,
Very good post! I really am not interested in politics and we do not have cable tv so I do not know much about this subject, so I'm a bit hesitant on commenting...thus the rambling! :)
My first thought was also "Oh good, a conservative!" But in my mind anyone who is a self-proclaimed feminist is not a conservative. Sigh! What a sticky situation our government is in these days.
I do think it will end up being either Obama or McCain...something that is not that great. Yes, I see McCain as better, but that doesn't mean he's good! :(
Our country desperately needs our prayers!
Love and blessings,
Julia
Lady Dorothy,
Thank you very much for your wise comment! You are, of course, entitled to your opinions, and always welcome to state them here.
My choice not to support Senator McCain has very little to do with Governor Palin, or even the fact that she is a woman; no one he would have appointed would have persuaded me to support his campaign.
I never said I believed a woman should *never* work outside of the home. (http://joyfullyathome.blogspot.com/2008/07/is-it-sin-to-work-outside-home.html). But one of the points of this post was to show that a woman working as, say, a midwife, has far less of an obligation to divide her time between work and family than the Vice President of the United States! :)
The man I hope and pray I will marry will hopefully have a bit too much integrity to be highly esteemed by either the current democratic or republican party anyway, so I doubt he'll ever be president! :) If, however, he was, I would, like one of my very favorite historical figures, Abigail Adams, endeavor to support and uphold him, and to do my duty as a wife in our home -and I'd be extremely proud to do so.
Thank you again for your thoughts!
~Jasmine~
Asia,
Thank you very much! I'd love to be added to your blog list! :)
~Jasmine~
Wow! Your conviction has inspired me! I have never wanted to be vice president either but that's because I am not into politics. Anyway, your post was GREAT! You have great faith and trust in the Lord. This "old woman" learned something from you today (smiles).
Jasmine,
Thank you for this! :) You so eloquently put it in words, and I for the same reasons as you would not want to be VP. :) And I loved the way you said that even if your husband did become President, that you would like Abigail Adams (and other Godly First Ladies who were great examples) endeavor to support, encourage & love your husband in the position God had called him to do and be.
Thanks again...
Ruth Ann
In response to Jasmine's response to Lady Dorothy:
Lady Dorothy made the point that if one is against a woman in a political position why is it OK to support a woman in "lesser" careers.
Jasmine implied that being a midwife would be OK because it requires less time. (Being a doula myself, I can say that attending births takes a LOT of time away from family and home with no clear time when you'll be home. You never know if labor will last three hours or three days!)
I think we need to be careful in drawing arbitrary lines for others based on our opinions--thereby becomeing ladies of opinion rather than ladies of conviction.
Why Biblically would being a midwife be more OK than other professions? Don't the children and grandchildren and husbands of midwives need their women home as much as the woman who works in a shop or salon?
I think sometimes we have an arbitrary hierarchy of professions. We believe some are justified for women and some are not--based on perceived importance of the job. It's fine if we are drawing those lines for ourselves (I'm glad to be a doula, but I don't want to be VP.) but it's not OK if we draw them for other people.
Jasmine -- I greatly appreciate the work your father has done and my family has enjoyed listening to his works. My family has watched Return of the Daughters and were very impressed with your beauty and eloquence in presenting your thoughts!
Biblically speaking, God used slavery as a punishment for his children. You would be hard pressed to find any American to admit that slavery is, or ever was, ok. Yet, for women, we can not give way as christians at all to say that women be allowed to have any positions outside of the home. There are several examples in the Bible but we always overstep those and shush them up and quite often write them off as "fairy tales" or Biblical legends. If I believe the whole Word of God is true then I believe it! As for Palin as VP compared to a woman being a midwife, really what is the difference? An obligation, no matter how large or small, outside of the home, still takes away from your family. If you completely believe that a womans only place is caring for her home and family 100%, then no obligation outside of the home is ok. Only a matter of personal opinion on what a women should be able to handle is the real jist of the matter. Perhaps you shouldn't be VP when you grow up but I would hope that you will pray about who God wants to be president (or VP) before jumping on the bandwagon of the "why women shouldn't" club. Perhaps God has decided we need a "wise woman" to save us. We won't know if we don't pray about it and let Him guide us!
May God richly bless you in all you do as He leads and guides you in the direction HE would have you serve all to the glory of God!
Sallie
Mrs. Gombajav,
If I implied that I thought being a midwife required less time than being a Vice President, I do apologize; it is not my wish to deal in implications; I want to be a young woman who speaks plainly.
I used midwifery merely as an example. I could have just as easily substituted any other profession Lady Dorothy mentioned; I chose not to quite arbitrarily.
This is a post about Vice Presidency; not about midwifery, waitressing, or being a nurse, all honorable professions for women in certain situations, I am sure.
My own grandmother has been a nurse, she has worked in the legal system, and done many other things she had to do to provide for my father when she was a single parent; I don't look down on working mothers as a practice, but I do hold to the principle that a woman's primary sphere of influence should be in her home.
My grandmother was a single mom who did not have the privilege of being a stay-at-home wife; Governor Palin's situation is *far* from what hers was, I assure you, and, as a matter of fact, far from my other grandmother's situation, or the situation of many members of my extended family.
Mrs. Gombojav, I beg you, do not presume to know what I believe based on mere inferences.
Respectfully,
Jasmine
Mrs. Sallie,
Bless you for your kind words!
I am not on a bandwagon, however; my beliefs are based upon principles that I have found in the Scriptures; reading and seeking to understand God's Holy Word is the best way to know His will for our lives, and is something that I strive to practice day by day.
Again, the example of a midwife was arbitrary. I happen to know of a couple of midwifes in our area who are able to keep the home *brilliantly* in addition to their very helpful jobs. I know women whose husbands would rather they work than stay at home, and these women work very honorably and steadily in submission to their husbands; I know women who are alone, and work to provide for their families because they do not have husbands, family, or church family to help them. Many, many more cases come to my mind, all with many different jobs, but the fact still stands that I believe that a woman's *primary sphere of influence* should be her home, and that all other things should be secondary.
This post was not talking about arbitrary rules and circumstances; it was in response to *one* specific woman's appointment as VP for *one* specific candidate, and my reaction to it.
~Jasmine~
Excellent and encouraging post, Miss Baucham!
I applaud your ability to state so clearly what is important to you and your goals for the future. From what I've read of your blog, you are a delightful and intelligent young woman.
While I have reached a slightly (not totally) different perspective than you on the Sarah Palin issue specifically, I appreciate what you've said here.
As to the issue of what a woman's role is in general, I came across this post today that I believe is TRULY worth the 3 minutes it takes to read. Here's the link for those interested:
http://humblemusings.com/archives/2008/09/02/a-woman’s-highest-calling/
Mrs. Gombojov, Mrs. Sallie, Lady Dorothy, ect.,
I do apologize for not making my points clearer last night, but a good night's sleep has un-muddled my head and cleared up my internet panic attack! :)
You see, I never thought this post would receive the sort of response that it has. I was not prepared for 33 comments or as many hits as its accrued the past couple of days; I certainly wasn't prepared to offend older women in the faith, or to presume to teach them how they should run their own households. I apologize if I have come off as snippy or authoritative.
Here was the point of my post:
Working mothers have become an economic and social reality in our times. In most cases, I do not believe this choice has been made because of want or necessity, or even convenience; I believe it has been made because, increasingly, mothers place less and less importance on their homes. It is not my place to judge the heart, only what I have observed as a very young woman.
The point of my post was to show that, in the face of this economic reality, I and other young women must not afraid to live a countercultural life, choosing home over work, because I have been taught to love and prioritize it; choosing home over Vice Presidency, so to speak, because I deem it worthy of everything that I can give it.
That was what I wished to say in my post; nothing more, nothing less. If I seemed to pass judgement on you or any other working mother out there, I extend my deepest, most humble apology ~
But I will not apologize for my belief that the home *must* be central to a married woman's life. And I will not apologize for my belief that Governor Palin, as VP, cannot prioritize home life, because she will be a full-time servant of our country. Nor will I apologize for the fact that, even were she not a wife and mother, as a woman, I do not believe she is biblically qualified to lead in such a position.
~Jasmine~
Jasmine,
Fantastic post. May I please link to it from my blog?
I'm so encouraged every time I see a young lady who is fully prepared to devote 100% of her effort to her home and family.
Ashley
Hi Jasmine,
What a beautiful, encouraging, thought-provoking post! Thank you so much!
May the Lord Jesus Christ bless you richly for your passionate embrace of the calling He has given us a young ladies.
~Apphia Long
Jasmine~
Your post has been very convicting. I must admit that I was planning on voting for McCain, simply because he is the lesser of 'two evils'. However, your posts have called my mindset into question. If you don't mind me asking, how do you feel about single women working outside of the home?
~Shannon
Jasmine -- Thank you for your elaboration.
My point, though probably not made well either, is that God has chosen to use women in the past and that we can not just jump to the conclusion that she is not who God has called without much prayer and discernment -- not directed solely at you but any commenters as well. I'm afraid with all of the many blog posts and news articles thrown out there within hours of her being named is exactly that... a lack of prayer and lack of faithfulness and trust in God for who He could use in this time of our nations history.
David, as the youngest brother and merely a shepherd boy, would not have been deemed qualified by any standards. Noah was not a ship builder yet by the wisdom and distinct direction of God built a ship large enough to save all of God's chosen creation. Esther and Deborah surely would not have been deemed qualified either as they were merely women. However, God had a great use for each of them in His own timing.
When we pray for God to guide us, then we can't go wrong! We can, and should be doing massive amounts of praying and listening to God between now and November 4th, and then continue to pray even more after that!
In Christ,
Sallie
Have you ever contemplated how you would feel about an intersex (for example, hermaphroditic) individual in a position of power over male heads of households? Around 1 in 1500 to 1 in 2000 babies are born with noticeably atypical genitalia, although significantly more are born with more subtle variations in sex anatomy and body chemistry that may not be noticed at birth.
My question basically boils down to this: how female is too female to be in a position of power? 100%, 50%, 1%? And considering your answer, is there a Bible verse that applies to this situation or would you consider this a personal rather than a Biblical opinion?
Needless to say Jasmine, that was a 'slightly' controversial post. I however, thoroughly enjoyed it!
Be encouraged sister, God is reviving His plan for the family!
Sallie,
You made the comment: "Esther and Deborah surely would not have been deemed qualified either as they were merely women." I think you misunderstand. I don't mean to speak for Jasmine, that's not my place, but 'merely women' is a feministic approach to womanhood. Senator McCain's choice for VP is not unbiblical because she is merely a woman, as if she was half a man or something, but because scripture is specific that God has chosen men to sit in the gates of the land. Being a woman is a marvelous blessing and a high calling, we are not merely women, we are women, created in the image of God for a distinct and vital purpose.
American Maiden -- As the wife of a godly husband and mother of four blessed children here on earth, I would never consider myself merely a woman either. I was saying that people, in general, seem to be saying merely because she is a woman, that she is disqualified when God has used women before. It obviously was not as often as men but He has used them none the less. I only want to encourage people to pray for God's guidance and then to follow Hebrews 13:17 if it all turns out in a way that people, in general, can't seem to fathom, or deem as ungodly.
Be blessed!!
Sallie
Jasmine,
It is so wonderful to see a young lady as yourself speaking of these things. It gives me great joy knowing that there are others out there that are standing firm in their beliefs of what God's calling is for women's lives.
Dear Jasmine,
Thank you for your post earlier this morning. You definitely did not offend me as a working mother, simply because I am not.
I, too, believe that the home should be central to a married woman's life. I am not disputing that. My only point of discussion was reason #9.
I just feel that since *I* don't and cannot prioritize any other working woman's home, I cannot do that for Gov. Palin. No, she cannot give 100% to her family. And, yes, that's sad. But, neither do a great many other women and we still "support" them by visiting their places of business or using their services or products. We cannot do that and not be hypocritical. If we do use their services, we become women with preferences and not women of convictions.
I, personally, know of no one who refuses all such services. I know of no woman who both lives 100% for her family and does not participate in any other woman's "error" of not giving 100% to hers. Therefore, I cannot presume upon Sarah Palin's life or give that as a reason I cannot vote for her. I, or you, may have other reasons. And that's fine. I just don't feel I can judge one woman one way and another woman (or myself) another.
Lady Dorothy,
After much thought, I have decided to try and answer your question a different way before closing up the comment section.
I do not believe that it is always a sin for a woman to work outside of the home (http://joyfullyathome.blogspot.com/2008/07/is-it-sin-to-work-outside-home.html); I do not believe that *any* woman *ever* working outside of the home is not doing all that she can to keep and guard her home. I do not believe that we can make sweeping statements as to which employment is all right for a woman and which employment is not pleasing to God based on arbitrary rules not found in Scripture.
Here's what a do believe:
I believe that women are not to hold the office of civil magistrates (Isaiah 3:12). I believe that, not only does it fly in the face of specific commands from Scripture, but it also forces a woman to make her nation a priority, and not her home (Titus 2:3-5).
This post was a result of those beliefs and those beliefs only, not a direct attack on Governor Palin (I do not know her or her family to attack them :), not a denial in the sovereignty of God (I am sure He will work this together for His good; He is never surprised), and not a list directed at any other working woman working in any other profession under any other circumstances.
Lady Dorothy, you are a very kind and obviously intelligent woman; I welcome your comments and opinions on this blog, as I do each and every other commenter. I hope you will return. :)
Dear Jasmine,
Your blog was a 'chanced upon'(Proverbs 16:9) blog but I am glad I was able to read it and all the posts commenting on it. You are a wise young woman and, it is obvious, a very caring and considerate one also. I was blessed by your desire to not offend and yet remain true to your convictions. I have a 27 year old daughter who has remained a daughter at home. It is a perfect training ground for one who desires to learn to be a godly wife under her husbands authority. This world touts the beauty of women 'being their own' but it flies in the face of a woman as taught by scriptures. Remaining under the authority of her parents is challenging...especially in this day and age... but what better way to learn submission and trust and a deeper prayer life. As a mother who was not raised this way I have been so humbled and blessed to see how truly God blesses those who walk according to His Word. Not an easy path by any means but wonderful in its purpose. Thank you for standing strong and striving for a Christlike attitude in doing so. I pray God will and is bringing a revival among our young ladies and men... it is our only hope.
God Bless you! Diane Morris
P.S here is one thought I had... when Deborah was judge she rebuked Barak for demanding she go with him by saying " "Very well," Deborah said, "I will go with you. But because of the way you are going about this, the honor will not be yours, for the LORD will hand Sisera over to a woman."
I think this very clearly shows that for a woman to be given that 'honor' is because of Gods judgement on the man/men. God does use women in these places but woe to us as a nation when he does. (In my humble opinion)
Kat,
My apologies for not answering your question sooner --I must admit, it struck me as a very odd one. :) I will endeavor to answer it as best I can, however, with the counsel of two people very skilled in medicine.
I am told that, biologically, "hermaphrodites" are either male or female, not androgynous beings. They are either XY or XX -their gender is based upon those chromosomes.
I'm afraid that I can't be a bit more articulate in my explanation. As I said, my limited experience includes a documentary of sorts I watched quite some time ago on the subject, and the counsel of two medical experts.
The only Bible verse I could think to give you would be found in the Genesis account, where God created Adam and Eve distinctly male and female. While there, have been many genetic consequences as a result of the Fall, I firmly believe that the Lord creates us distinctly male and female, despite unfortunate deformities.
I stand open to correction on my limited understanding. :)
Thank you for your question, Kat!
And, Mrs. Morris, thank you for your observation -that is definitely something to think about!
~Jasmine~
Beautifully said, Jasmine. And how admirable that a young girl your age understands the concept of male and female roles when so many older people don't. My highest praise to you and your parents.
This is my first time to visit your blog, and let me tell you, I've enjoyed every minute of it.
I must say it was very refreshing reading for myself that there ARE people (besides my family) who are not going to vote for McCain even though they don't want Obama to be President.
I appreciate the words you have to share and look forward to keeping up-to-date.
P.S. I like the music you have on your playlist a lot!
AMEN, AMEN, AMEN.
If only more of us women recognized this at your age...
You have wisdom beyond your years!
Assuming your reasons are not just for you but are presented for other woman also I have some comments. My comments are not in relation to Palin -- they are just in general.
#2 could apply to males also and I assume you don't think men should only impact the family.
#5 similarly could apply to men.
#9 Do you really want to give 100% to your household? Proverbs 31:20 shows that the virtuous woman spent some of her time doing things for those outside her family. Other worthy activities for a wife and mother include church, parents, and most importantly God!
James,
Well, that is very much an assumption since, at the age of eighteen, I have no desire to teach grown women how they should live their lives. :) This post is, indeed, a personal response to events that have unfolded in our nation. Were I a young man, perhaps I would express some of the same concerns in this list --however, I'm not one, so I only speak from my perspective. :)
Regarding your last concern, the reason I am so inspired by the woman in Proverbs 31 is because, through all of the endeavors listed in that passage, her central focus in the building up of her home, her family, and her community.
As a Christian, it is a "given" to me that my duty is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever. Period. God isn't the top of my list, with all priorities listed beneath Him; He IS the list! EVERYTHING I do is to His glory.
Thank you very much for your comment, sir!
~Jasmine~
Mr. Stauffer,
Well, that is very much an assumption since, at the age of eighteen, I have no desire to teach grown women how they should live their lives. :) This post is, indeed, a personal response to events that have unfolded in our nation. Were I a young man, perhaps I would express some of the same concerns in this list --however, I'm not one, so I only speak from my perspective as a Christian who is a young woman. :)
Regarding your last concern, the reason I am so inspired by the woman in Proverbs 31 is because, through all of the endeavors listed in that passage, her central focus in the building up of her home, her family, and her community.
As a Christian, it is a "given" to me that my duty is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever. Period. God isn't the top of my list, with all priorities listed beneath Him; He IS the list! EVERYTHING I do is to His glory.
Thank you very much for your comment, sir!
~Jasmine~
AMEN!!!!!!:)
To James,
To continue what Jasmine was saying, the proverbs 31 woman FIRST built up her family to such an extent (through the proper use of her husbands resources, such as seeking good buys on food, going afar to find suitable clothing for her family, purchasing a field and earning money, creating goods and so on to sell) that with the overflow of her good economy, she was able to stretch out her hand to the needy. It was the very act of creating her home according to God's will that allowed her to increase her sphere of influence. If every woman would do that, there would be very little poverty and there would be no need for government subsidies such as welfare etc.
cm.oursler
All you women here seem to have an extremely high eduation. It is a shame that your beliefs are retarded by oldschool and sexist mentalities. Do you know how many great things you could have achieved if you stepped out of your doorway? If it weren't those women who worked traditional "men's job", our society will not be as advanced as today's. Example: Marie Curie (scientist),Queen Elizabeth I, Joan of Arc etc. Think about it.
Melanie Tam:
Human Rights Activist,
Gay supporter,
Feminist.
Miss Melanie,
I can see from the descriptions in your signature that we do not share the same worldview, but I appreciate your taking the time to comment nonetheless. Conversation between us may prove fruitless, but I wanted to say that I found it odd that you used the three examples you did to prove your point.
Elizabeth I has always been a much-researched historical figure of interest to me, ever since we lived in the UK 2000-2001; though she ruled her country well, it was at great personal loss. She was an unhappy, lonely woman who literally gave up everything she was to further her country.
Marie Curie was a professing atheist until her death. While her work has had a great impact on the scientific world, it is obvious from her personal profession that her impact was not so dynamic from an eternal perspective.
Joan of Arc's life is so shrouded in myth and fantasy that it is difficult to separate truth from fiction. I do not believe she was visited by Saint Margaret, Saint Catherine, or Saint Michael, and, though she may have been well-intentioned, her life is not an example to be followed.
Upon closer inspection of the threesome you've presented, I would much rather emulate the Proverbs 31 woman, all day every day! I will use my "high education" to further the Lord's kingdom as He has commanded me, and not as my selfish desires would guide me.
Again, Miss Melanie, thank you very much for your comment!
Soli Deo Gloria,
Jasmine
With modesty in mind, aren't there some occupations that are only appropriate for women? Medical and gynecological care in particular.
as a christian i too believe that God has a plan for each of us. God does want us to be wonderful wives and mothers but i believe that God gives us power and intelligence to do much more. We are given opportunities to go to college and get an education that will give women the same independence and strength that men have. We have been given these great freedoms and it would be a shame to neglect them. Consider Esther who was called by God to take on the responsibilities of a man. All I am saying is to listen clearly to what God is telling you and do not limit it to marriage and motherhood.
Anon.,
The fact that Esther was a queen simply means she was the wife of a king. God used her role as the wife of King Ahasuerus to save her nation.
I don't believe it's possible to limit the Lord. I believe whatever gifts, passions, and intellect He's given me can be used to the fullest in the home.
I have said nothing in this post against going to college or getting an education; however, as to your other comment, I don't believe women were created to have "the same independence and strength that men have." We were created differently, complimentary, and I am grateful and secure in those differences (Ephesians 5:22ff, Titus 2:3-5). This does not make us inferior to the men in our lives in any way; I simply believe we play different roles.
I do appreciate your input, however. Thank you for taking the time to comment.
Dear Jasmine,
I am 32 years old. My father is deceased and I am not married. I am starting to believe God that has called me to life-long singlehood. What should I do for sustenance besides working outside the home?
Dear Ana,
First of all, I'm sorry to hear about your father's passing.
As to your question, I think it would be very hard to provide for yourself and *not* to work outside of your home, depending on what you mean by the term. For instance, there is a sweet young lady at our church just a couple of years younger than you are who takes care of her elderly parents. She's a highly educated math major who used to work as a professor, and now tutors. Although her occupation allows her ample time at home to care for her parents, she works outside of her home -traveling to different homes to do her teaching.
Another young lady I know works several days a week to help a single parent with the kids for the couple of hours in the morning between the time the parent leaves for work and the time the kids board the school bus. She leaves her home every day to do so.
Yet another young lady works as a piano teacher. Soon, she'll have her music degree, and is planning to do some work playing for our local theater for plays. She goes outside of her home twice a week to teach several students; she'll be out several times a week to practice for these shows.
I myself, once I graduate, would love to be an English tutor. I might travel to different homes to do so. So, in essence, I'd be working outside of my home.
All of these young ladies have acquired jobs that generate income while still allowing them to spend the bulk of their time at home. They are working with the blessing of both their parents, in submission to the authorities the Lord has placed in their lives.
So, your choice of occupation would depend on 1) your situation in life; your level of education, your passions, your pursuits, 2) it would, ideally, be something that didn't interfere with other callings the Lord has placed on your life, and 3) you would still be a woman who had the input of godly counsel to guide you in your decision.
So, 1) are you a math major? An English teacher? A pianist? What are the job opportunities that 2) allow you to tend to your at-home and familial responsibilities? Is your mother a widow? 1 Timothy 5:16 comes to mind. And, 3) what is the wise counsel of those in authority over you? Your pastors and elders -are you connected to a strong church body that will offer you biblical advice?
If you are single in the true sense of the word (not just an unmarried daughter still living under the authority of her parents, but someone who is literally out on her own), is there a family in your church that you can consult? A Titus 2 woman you can spend time with?
You can still be a Proverbs 31 woman whether you are married or not, blessing those in whatever sphere the Lord deems fit to place you in.
I hope that answered your question. As it regards this post, I don't believe I ever said that any woman in any situation should never, ever work outside of the home no matter what; if that's what you inferred, I hope I've laid that myth to rest. =)
A married woman's primary sphere of influence should be her home (Titus 2:3-5); civil authority has been given to men, not women (Isaiah 3:12). Those are the two subjects I wished to address in this particular post. ;)
As to your first question (which I just realized I never answered -I'm sorry about that!), I believe modesty has to do with sexual purity. A doctor's visit is, in my opinion, outside of the realms of modesty (a good male doctor, when he is doing a mammogram, for instance, will use an instrument for the procedure, never looking down at a woman's exposed chest; even when he does so, I firmly believe that, for the most part, it's with medicine in mind). Now, of course, there may be sinister male doctor's who are an exception to the rule; but there could be sinister female doctors as well. I'm always uncomfortable at the doctor's office -male or female, those sterile environments make me feel like I'm two steps away from being hooked up to a heart monitor. =)
I know many capable midwives, most of whom have adult children, and, though they may be on call at odd hours, have a limited number of patients, and so, are still able to care for their homes with diligence and attentiveness. I'm not comfortable making sweeping generalizations about male or female doctors in general, though -I'm a pretty healthy gal, and have had little experience with them. =) I do know women who are more comfortable with a midwife than with a doctor at a hospital, male or female.
As for me, when I have my own children, I'm simply interested in going to the doctor who will provide the best care for my baby and I.
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